There’s an art to picking up women. It isn’t an art
I especially respect, as the methods themselves are
literally damaging, but I will admit that it works
90 percent of the time.
It all comes down to simple psychology and the
human ego.
Once you know how to manipulate people into
wanting things and understand how to change
their perception of themselves and their
surroundings, you can get people to do things they
never thought they’d do.
Throw in some liquor and other party favors and
taking a supermodel home becomes easy.
This article isn’t supporting the methods of such
pick-up artists, but rather reminding women to
be on the lookout.
Most women are already familiar with such tricks,
but in case you need a refresher course, here are
10 ways guys will break down a woman’s self-
esteem just so they can sleep with her:
THEY’LL PICK ON YOU.
It’s starts off with playful pokes at the way you
slouch, the way your lipstick smudges on your
teeth, the way you waddle when you wear high
heels.
Guys want to take your self-esteem down a couple
of notches, and to do so, they need to make you
aware of your little flaws — flaws that every
person has.
THEY’LL INSULT YOU.
Once they make you feel a bit self-conscious, they’ll
cut you down a few more sizes by insulting you to
your face. They’ll tell you your dress is ugly. Your
hair is greasy. Your ears are too big. Your perfume
is disgusting, etc.
They will likely only insult you in one fashion at a
time so they don’t scare you away entirely.
But as they are mixing these insults in with regular
conversation and possibly even some flattery, you’ll
feel less confident in yourself, but not so insulted
that you take off.
THEY’LL GIVE YOU ATTENTION AND
THEN DIVERT IT TO ANOTHER WOMAN.
When a man checks out another woman while he
is with his girlfriend, issues usually ensue.
However, when a guy checks out another girl while
he is working on picking you up, he’s hoping to
strike the chord of jealousy to make you believe
you aren’t special — he wants to plant the thought
in your head that if you don’t snatch him up, he’ll
get snatched up by some other girl.
THEY’LL HIT ON YOUR LESS ATTRACTIVE
FRIEND.
This one is a go-to for all pick-up artists and
players alike. When a guy wants to get into your
pants, he’ll often start off by hitting on your less
attractive friend instead of you.
Doing this often makes women contemplate why it
is that they, the prettier ones, aren’t the center of
attention. Once he gets you to want his attention,
you’re putting the ball back in his court.
THEY’LL TRY THEIR BEST TO MAKE YOU
FEEL LIKE YOU’RE LESS VALUABLE THAN
YOU ARE.
Women just aren’t interested in men they deem
less valuable than themselves. As human beings,
everything we take into consideration, we take into
consideration comparatively. We weigh our value
in comparison to the value of others.
When women look for a man, they want a man
they feel is as valuable as they themselves are, if
not more so.
For this reason, since most men can’t increase
their value via conversation alone, they do their
best to decrease the woman’s value — or rather,
her perception of her own value.
THEY’LL COMPLIMENT YOU, BUT THEN
MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU COULD DO
BETTER.
We all have untapped potential, but we don’t want
to hear that we are falling short of what we could
possibly accomplish.
Hearing that we aren’t living up to our potential
hurts our egos — and that’s exactly what these
guys want to do.
Hurting your ego makes it more likely that you’ll
be willing to open yourself up to them, as if to
prove you are more valuable than these men deem
you to be.
THEY DO THEIR BEST TO MAKE YOU FEEL
AS IF THEY ARE DOING YOU A FAVOR BY
BEING INTERESTED IN YOU.
The goal for any man trying to take you home the
night he meets you is making you believe you’re
lucky you met him.
He wants you to feel honored that he’s interested
in you and in order to do so, he will continually
cut you down while simultaneously making himself
appear smarter and more entertaining than he
actually is.
He will tell you whatever lies he needs to because
you’ll probably never find out the truth. Or when
you do, it’ll be in the morning when you wake up
and notice he’s long gone.
THEY FLIP BACK AND FORTH FROM
INTERESTED TO UNINTERESTED IN
ORDER TO CONFUSE YOU AND MAKE
YOU DIVERT YOUR ATTENTION TO THEM.
No one likes a boring guy — but a guy who makes
you feel a roller coaster of emotions — even if only
shallow emotions — is a guy any person would
deem interesting. When we are given attention, we
want to keep that attention.
But once we know we are not at risk of losing that
attention, we find ourselves to be uninterested.
Guys understand this logic and use it to their
advantage.
They’ll keep you on your toes until you practically
beg them to take you home.
THEY WANT YOU TO FEEL AS IF YOU
NEED THEM. WHEN IT COMES TO
PICKING UP WOMEN FOR ONE-NIGHT
STANDS, THIS USUALLY MEANS PERKS,
SUCH AS MONEY OR ADMITTANCE INTO
SELECT EVENTS.
He’ll buy you drinks or bring you to his table. He’ll
take you to another bar or club and make sure it’s
far enough so that you rely on him for
transportation.
He’ll do his best to remove you from your friends
and familiar surroundings in order for you to feel
as if you are relying on him for either your safety
or fun. He wants you to need him, even if only for
the next few hours.
THEY WILL MAKE SURE YOU’RE HAVING
A BAD TIME SO THEY CAN “SAVE YOU”
AND SHOW YOU A MUCH BETTER TIME.
That’s right, some guys will go as far as to ruin
your night just so they can then save it.
How this is done depends on the guy and what he
himself is capable of, but it can be anything from
hiding your purse from you, knocking into
someone and having a drink spill all over your
dress, to literally getting you thrown out of a venue
for some random reason.
As long as you are having a bad time, he has an
opportunity to show you a better time. The worse
time you’re having, the easier it is for him to
improve your night.
– Paul Hudson/EliteDaily
I especially respect, as the methods themselves are
literally damaging, but I will admit that it works
90 percent of the time.
It all comes down to simple psychology and the
human ego.
Once you know how to manipulate people into
wanting things and understand how to change
their perception of themselves and their
surroundings, you can get people to do things they
never thought they’d do.
Throw in some liquor and other party favors and
taking a supermodel home becomes easy.
This article isn’t supporting the methods of such
pick-up artists, but rather reminding women to
be on the lookout.
Most women are already familiar with such tricks,
but in case you need a refresher course, here are
10 ways guys will break down a woman’s self-
esteem just so they can sleep with her:
THEY’LL PICK ON YOU.
It’s starts off with playful pokes at the way you
slouch, the way your lipstick smudges on your
teeth, the way you waddle when you wear high
heels.
Guys want to take your self-esteem down a couple
of notches, and to do so, they need to make you
aware of your little flaws — flaws that every
person has.
THEY’LL INSULT YOU.
Once they make you feel a bit self-conscious, they’ll
cut you down a few more sizes by insulting you to
your face. They’ll tell you your dress is ugly. Your
hair is greasy. Your ears are too big. Your perfume
is disgusting, etc.
They will likely only insult you in one fashion at a
time so they don’t scare you away entirely.
But as they are mixing these insults in with regular
conversation and possibly even some flattery, you’ll
feel less confident in yourself, but not so insulted
that you take off.
THEY’LL GIVE YOU ATTENTION AND
THEN DIVERT IT TO ANOTHER WOMAN.
When a man checks out another woman while he
is with his girlfriend, issues usually ensue.
However, when a guy checks out another girl while
he is working on picking you up, he’s hoping to
strike the chord of jealousy to make you believe
you aren’t special — he wants to plant the thought
in your head that if you don’t snatch him up, he’ll
get snatched up by some other girl.
THEY’LL HIT ON YOUR LESS ATTRACTIVE
FRIEND.
This one is a go-to for all pick-up artists and
players alike. When a guy wants to get into your
pants, he’ll often start off by hitting on your less
attractive friend instead of you.
Doing this often makes women contemplate why it
is that they, the prettier ones, aren’t the center of
attention. Once he gets you to want his attention,
you’re putting the ball back in his court.
THEY’LL TRY THEIR BEST TO MAKE YOU
FEEL LIKE YOU’RE LESS VALUABLE THAN
YOU ARE.
Women just aren’t interested in men they deem
less valuable than themselves. As human beings,
everything we take into consideration, we take into
consideration comparatively. We weigh our value
in comparison to the value of others.
When women look for a man, they want a man
they feel is as valuable as they themselves are, if
not more so.
For this reason, since most men can’t increase
their value via conversation alone, they do their
best to decrease the woman’s value — or rather,
her perception of her own value.
THEY’LL COMPLIMENT YOU, BUT THEN
MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU COULD DO
BETTER.
We all have untapped potential, but we don’t want
to hear that we are falling short of what we could
possibly accomplish.
Hearing that we aren’t living up to our potential
hurts our egos — and that’s exactly what these
guys want to do.
Hurting your ego makes it more likely that you’ll
be willing to open yourself up to them, as if to
prove you are more valuable than these men deem
you to be.
THEY DO THEIR BEST TO MAKE YOU FEEL
AS IF THEY ARE DOING YOU A FAVOR BY
BEING INTERESTED IN YOU.
The goal for any man trying to take you home the
night he meets you is making you believe you’re
lucky you met him.
He wants you to feel honored that he’s interested
in you and in order to do so, he will continually
cut you down while simultaneously making himself
appear smarter and more entertaining than he
actually is.
He will tell you whatever lies he needs to because
you’ll probably never find out the truth. Or when
you do, it’ll be in the morning when you wake up
and notice he’s long gone.
THEY FLIP BACK AND FORTH FROM
INTERESTED TO UNINTERESTED IN
ORDER TO CONFUSE YOU AND MAKE
YOU DIVERT YOUR ATTENTION TO THEM.
No one likes a boring guy — but a guy who makes
you feel a roller coaster of emotions — even if only
shallow emotions — is a guy any person would
deem interesting. When we are given attention, we
want to keep that attention.
But once we know we are not at risk of losing that
attention, we find ourselves to be uninterested.
Guys understand this logic and use it to their
advantage.
They’ll keep you on your toes until you practically
beg them to take you home.
THEY WANT YOU TO FEEL AS IF YOU
NEED THEM. WHEN IT COMES TO
PICKING UP WOMEN FOR ONE-NIGHT
STANDS, THIS USUALLY MEANS PERKS,
SUCH AS MONEY OR ADMITTANCE INTO
SELECT EVENTS.
He’ll buy you drinks or bring you to his table. He’ll
take you to another bar or club and make sure it’s
far enough so that you rely on him for
transportation.
He’ll do his best to remove you from your friends
and familiar surroundings in order for you to feel
as if you are relying on him for either your safety
or fun. He wants you to need him, even if only for
the next few hours.
THEY WILL MAKE SURE YOU’RE HAVING
A BAD TIME SO THEY CAN “SAVE YOU”
AND SHOW YOU A MUCH BETTER TIME.
That’s right, some guys will go as far as to ruin
your night just so they can then save it.
How this is done depends on the guy and what he
himself is capable of, but it can be anything from
hiding your purse from you, knocking into
someone and having a drink spill all over your
dress, to literally getting you thrown out of a venue
for some random reason.
As long as you are having a bad time, he has an
opportunity to show you a better time. The worse
time you’re having, the easier it is for him to
improve your night.
– Paul Hudson/EliteDaily
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